A Stranger Broke My Heart Today
I have many followers on Facebook; many I don’t know personally. Many who have followed me simply because I followed them. But I do try to connect with as many as I can. I read their posts and comment on what touches me. Today, one such post reached in and gripped my heart.
I read about a woman whose life has been diminished because of health issues. She is no longer able to lead the life she once had and is now mostly in a wheelchair. Because of this, she has lost many of the things that once made her happy – including her husband.
My heart broke.
I mean into a million little pieces.
I cried for her.
I felt her pain.
Then I got angry at all the faceless people who surround her – and I cast blame. But that’s wrong. I shouldn’t blame people for not being able to deal with other people’s problems. What I’ve learned throughout my life is that it all begins with me.
People are reactive.
People are selfish without intention. It’s just a part of our nature.
I learned that if I want people to respond to me in a particular way, I have to first give them the incentive to. Do I want love? I have to show that I am worthy of love. Do I want forgiveness? I must show that I am worthy of forgiveness. Do I want to be cared for? I must be caring. What I put out, comes back.
We all grow older – it’s inevitable. And with age comes change, especially for women. Take me, for example. I’ve recently entered the stage of menopause, and let me tell you, my body, mind, and spirit have all shifted gears on me. I look in the mirror and almost don’t recognize the woman looking back. My immediate reaction is to feel a deep sense of sadness. I can see why so many women fall into depression. Their entire life to this point seemingly disappears without a trace. Suddenly, they find themselves looking at a woman who is unfamiliar – a stranger who has consumed their inner being and there is nothing they can do about it. There is no escape, no going back. It can be terrifying.
And so I gave this woman from Facebook this morning advice that I have given myself.
Don’t concentrate on what you cannot do; go out and do the things you can. And by this I mean, live the life you’ve been given. Let that special someone see that you are still a person full of life and love. Draw them to your inner self, beyond the physical appearance. Your beauty will shine through you when you find peace with who you are. I know this to be true. You must learn to live your life with who you are today, and not who you were once upon a time. Banish your regrets and make a pact with yourself that you will find at least one good thing in yourself each and every day. Take a long hard look at you in the mirror. Don’t turn away. Say goodbye to the person you once were. You can cry at this farewell. But don’t look away. When you catch your breath, smile. Meet the new you. Accept her. Love her and she will love you back. I promise.
This is all I can offer to another woman – my faceless friend – my comrade. I wish you inner peace, love, and God’s soft touch upon your shoulder.
With warmest regards,